Relationships 101: When Your Old Girlfriends Don't Like the New Guy

When your old girlfriends don't like the new guy it can make for sticky situations. No one likes to have to choose between old friends and new ones. Fortunately, if you are in this situation there are a few things that  you can do.

First, before writing off any friendships take a few minutes to analyze the situation. Ask yourself honestly what could be going on. See if you can pinpoint a reason for the strife. Could it be that your new guy leaves no room for others? Or is there something else going on. Once you have looked at the relationships from all angles you may find the answer. If not, keep reading this article.

Try talking to your friends without your new guy around. Schedule a girfriends lunch at your favorite restaurant or have everyone over for a discussion. Ask your friends why they feel the way they do. Be honest and open. They are, after all, your friends. As friends they naturally want the best for you. Be prepared to hear them out and give honest feedback in return. You might be surprised at what you hear. Do not be defensive or angry. This will only damage the relationship that you are trying to keep intact.

Thank your friends. This is important even if you do not like what they have to say. It will help them feel valued and it will go a long way toward helping your friendship in the long run.

Be sure not to promise anything in haste. Tell your friends that you need time to think things through. Promising to do something and not following through will only damage your friendship. It's better to be noncommittal that to promise to act too fast.

When old friends don't like the new guy it can be because they don't know how to act. Suddenly, the rules of the friendship have changed. If they are used to having girlfriends night and you are unavailable there is going to be some readjusting. This is a normal change. Most girlfriends will understand and accept the change. When they don't, it can signal big issues.

Sometimes when old friends don't like the new guy it could be because they know something you don't. For example, domestic violence is often hidden early on in relationships. During the later stages abusive tendencies can become apparent but often blindsides the victim. Sometimes friends will hear rumors on pick up on abusive tendencies. This may cause dislike and distancing of relationships.

If it becomes apparent that you need to change your set of friends do so slowly. Try not to burn any bridges. You never know when you will want to spend time with your girlfriends again. This day and age, we women need all the girlfriends by our side that we can get.